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  • LudovicoLudovico
    edited April 18 Posts: 15,761
    We went to a wedding recently and my son wore a suit. Of course he had to strike a pose: we did the gunbarrel sequence with a toy gun. I'm not biased at all: the result was spectacular.
  • CommanderRossCommanderRoss The bottom of a pitch lake in Eastern Trinidad, place called La Brea
    Posts: 8,789
    Ludovico wrote: »
    We went to a wedding recently and my son wore a suit. Of course he had to strike a pose: we did the gunbarrel sequence with a toy gun. I'm not based at all: the result was spectacular.

    No doubt it was epic. My son looks absolutely dashing in a suit, at 6. Probably every other age as well ;-)
  • rock223rock223 Isenburg
    edited April 27 Posts: 17
    Since becoming a parent myself, I've learned so much about navigating the challenges of each stage. One thing I've come across is the risk of products, like baby formula, which can lead to serious health issues. But I have a lawyer here who always guides me and helps me handle such situations. Honestly, I believe every parent should have legal support that can protect them.
  • LudovicoLudovico
    Posts: 15,761
    My new lullaby:

    I was about to say I sing it these days to get my boy to sleep, but truly I sing it these nights.
  • CommanderRossCommanderRoss The bottom of a pitch lake in Eastern Trinidad, place called La Brea
    Posts: 8,789
    hahaha you're not the only one. When he was smaller I'd also sing YOLT.
  • FoxRoxFoxRox
    edited May 22 Posts: 12,737
    I can’t imagine how difficult it is to be a parent. It’s definitely not for me, for many reasons. Riding that fine line between not too strict and not too lenient I imagine is very hard, though observing parents with their children in public these days, it definitely seems to lean heavily towards leniency. I get a general sense that parents nowadays want to be their kids’ friend more than their parent, and are too scared, uninterested, or motivated to discipline them, even when it’ll ultimately be for their betterment in time.

    Personally, I got to have a wonderful mother that I still talk with all the time; we have a few differences, but she’s a great person and I recognize how lucky I was and am to have her. My father was unfortunately very nasty and toxic, and he hasn’t been in the picture for a very long time now. As a man, I completely lack the example to be a good father in the first place, but frankly I’m not even interested in having kids and happily leave it to those who are more prepared and wanting to. I wish all the parents out there the best, as the challenges are plentiful and constant, but as my mother kindly assured me, it can all be worth it.
  • CommanderRossCommanderRoss The bottom of a pitch lake in Eastern Trinidad, place called La Brea
    Posts: 8,789
    FoxRox wrote: »
    I can’t imagine how difficult it is to be a parent. It’s definitely not for me, for many reasons. Riding that fine line between not too strict and not too lenient I imagine is very hard, though observing parents with their children in public these days, it definitely seems to lean heavily towards leniency. I get a general sense that parents nowadays want to be their kids’ friend more than their parent, and are too scared, uninterested, or motivated to discipline them, even when it’ll ultimately be for their betterment in time.

    Personally, I got to have a wonderful mother that I still talk with all the time; we have a few differences, but she’s a great person and I recognize how lucky I was and am to have her. My father was unfortunately very nasty and toxic, and he hasn’t been in the picture for a very long time now. As a man, I completely lack the example to be a good father in the first place, but frankly I’m not even interested in having kids and happily leave it to those who are more prepared and wanting to. I wish all the parents out there the best, as the challenges are plentiful and constant, but as my mother kindly assured me, it can all be worth it.

    Sad to hear you've had such a dad, especially if that's been of influence on thinking if you're a good parent yourself. My father is a very friendly and thoughtful man, whom never ever helped me with anything, as he was too thoughtful, and never understood life himself. But as a father myself, I decided I'd be a guide for my son. I explain the things he doesn't do right, and why. I'll honestly answer any questions he has. If I don't know, I don't know. But I'm not his friend. We're not equal, not until he's 18. And I've told him that as well. We don't do punishment, and up until now we didn't need to. Usually he knows it when he went off the rails and cries when he wants to apologise. A big hug then works wonders. SO, all in ll, I don't find it very difficult. The only difficult part is that you need to give him attention, and that can be challanging after a day's work. Especially as he can keep on talking... and talking...and.. But the pride you get in return for seeing him succeed is better than any experience in my life.
  • LudovicoLudovico
    Posts: 15,761
    CommanderRoss wrote: »
    hahaha you're not the only one. When he was smaller I'd also sing YOLT.

    Oh I need to try this tomorrow night!
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