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  • LucknFateLucknFate 007 In New York
    edited November 2023 Posts: 1,450
    ToTheRight wrote: »
    So I just cleaned out my late, great better half's closet. This January it'll be three years since she passed, and I put that off for far too long. Emotional thing to do, but necessary if I want to move forward. She'd want that. RIP, dear soul mate.

    Sorry for your loss, and glad you're able to move forward, even if it's just a little bit at a time. No need to rush or hurry, cherish your memories of them, but understand that no matter where you go, the decisions you make, or how things change, they'll always still be with you.
  • GoldenGunGoldenGun Per ora e per il momento che verrà
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    @ToTheRight, my thoughts are with you. Hope you can find comfort in all those great memories.
  • Creasy47Creasy47 In Cuba with Natalya.Moderator
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    ToTheRight wrote: »
    So I just cleaned out my late, great better half's closet. This January it'll be three years since she passed, and I put that off for far too long. Emotional thing to do, but necessary if I want to move forward. She'd want that. RIP, dear soul mate.

    One step forward and one day at a time. I'm glad you found the strength to do that finally, I'm sure it'll help you out in the long run.
  • ToTheRightToTheRight
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    Thanks, guys. I'll be donating her clothes. This is something that's overdue. I need to set up mu place for the future and get back on track. You never know when someone new may come along...which she'd want for me.
  • j_w_pepperj_w_pepper Born on the bayou. I can still hear my old hound dog barkin'.
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    @ToTheRight, I'm sorry for your loss even if it's been three years. I hope I'll never experience that, but chances are since I'm older and frankly less healthy than my wife I'll rather be her problem in that regard. Not that I wish that to be her problem, but I guess there are circumstances you can't really avoid. And I also wish for you having someone new to come along. Life is so much easier with a partner.
  • DarthDimiDarthDimi Behind you!Moderator
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    @ToTheRight
    I am so sorry for your loss, friend. Part of moving on is talking to people, I have learned. We are always here for you. (I honestly don't want to sound like a gift card... It's hard sometimes to find the right words. But I meant what I said.)
  • MaxCasinoMaxCasino United States
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    @ToTheRight Thoughts and prayers for you. Now and always. You are always welcome to talk to us, we are a big family at heart.
  • ToTheRightToTheRight
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    j_w_pepper wrote: »
    @ToTheRight, I'm sorry for your loss even if it's been three years. I hope I'll never experience that, but chances are since I'm older and frankly less healthy than my wife I'll rather be her problem in that regard. Not that I wish that to be her problem, but I guess there are circumstances you can't really avoid. And I also wish for you having someone new to come along. Life is so much easier with a partner.

    Thank you. I appreciate the kind words. Part of finding someone new is probably being ready to receive. The last time I was single and available I was 10 years younger. Now I'm in a different part of the country, different culture and people. Whole new ballgame. It's funny while watching NTTD last night, during the PTS Matera section I felt motivated to clear our her closet and plan ahead for my future.
    DarthDimi wrote: »
    @ToTheRight
    I am so sorry for your loss, friend. Part of moving on is talking to people, I have learned. We are always here for you. (I honestly don't want to sound like a gift card... It's hard sometimes to find the right words. But I meant what I said.)

    I appreciate it. The Bond community does bring people together.
    MaxCasino wrote: »
    @ToTheRight Thoughts and prayers for you. Now and always. You are always welcome to talk to us, we are a big family at heart.

    Thanks. That means a lot.
  • j_w_pepperj_w_pepper Born on the bayou. I can still hear my old hound dog barkin'.
    Posts: 8,722
    ToTheRight wrote: »
    I appreciate it. The Bond community does bring people together.
    I guess that pretty much sums up why so many of us appreciate and cherish being part of this community in spite of sometimes being so divided on how to judge a certain movie.
  • ToTheRightToTheRight
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    j_w_pepper wrote: »
    ToTheRight wrote: »
    I appreciate it. The Bond community does bring people together.
    I guess that pretty much sums up why so many of us appreciate and cherish being part of this community in spite of sometimes being so divided on how to judge a certain movie.

    True.
  • DwayneDwayne New York City
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    ToTheRight wrote: »
    So I just cleaned out my late, great better half's closet. This January it'll be three years since she passed, and I put that off for far too long. Emotional thing to do, but necessary if I want to move forward. She'd want that. RIP, dear soul mate.

    @ToTheRight. These things are never easy. When my mother passed away, and I had to go through her things, it was practically impossible to decide what to keep and what to throw out. On one hand I didn’t have the room to keep too much stuff, yet as I was disposing of the items, I felt that I was being disrespectful somehow.

    Oddly, I ultimately decided to keep several items of hers that even pre-date me (pictures of her as a young girl, the odd work papers, etc..). They help me to remember that she lived a full life, even before I was born. For those items which showed us as a family; I retained just a couple of items and stored them away.

    I have my memories, and that keeps me going. That said, since Goldfinger was her favorite Bond film, I've been known to take one of her photos out and prop it up so that she can "watch" it with me.

    Stay strong my friend.
  • ToTheRightToTheRight
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    Thank you, @Dwayne.
    I have pictures of my late girlfriend with me whenever I'm watching a Hammer horror. She loved those films as well as Bond and noir.
  • DragonpolDragonpol https://thebondologistblog.blogspot.com
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    Sorry for your loss, @ToTheRight. I hope you continue to grow and heal. You're doing well and good things are ahead for you.
  • SIS_HQSIS_HQ At the Vauxhall Headquarters
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    ToTheRight wrote: »
    So I just cleaned out my late, great better half's closet. This January it'll be three years since she passed, and I put that off for far too long. Emotional thing to do, but necessary if I want to move forward. She'd want that. RIP, dear soul mate.

    Oh, sorry for the loss of your version's Tracy/Vesper, @ToTheRight

    But for sure, you've spent all the time in the world with her.
  • ToTheRightToTheRight
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    SIS_HQ wrote: »
    ToTheRight wrote: »
    So I just cleaned out my late, great better half's closet. This January it'll be three years since she passed, and I put that off for far too long. Emotional thing to do, but necessary if I want to move forward. She'd want that. RIP, dear soul mate.

    Oh, sorry for the loss of your version's Tracy/Vesper, @ToTheRight

    But for sure, you've spent all the time in the world with her.

    Thanks, @SIS_HQ. I kind of do think of her as my Tracy/Vesper.
    We spent many hours watching Bond films together. She actually enjoyed all the films like I do.

    Dragonpol wrote: »
    Sorry for your loss, @ToTheRight. I hope you continue to grow and heal. You're doing well and good things are ahead for you.

    Thanks, @Dragonpol . I made some changes after she passed with work and my health. I'm working towards a future of happiness. :)
  • BennyBenny In the shadowsAdministrator, Moderator
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    @ToTheRight there's no time limit on how long we grieve my friend. You take however long you need. Many of us have lost someone we care for, we all experience loss in a different way, it's never a good experience or one we look back on with happiness. However, moving forward we do find happiness again, we do smile, we do laugh, it does get better.
    You've taken a big step in moving forward, and there's no pace in which we need to do this to make things better. Only you can do that. But know that there is a time when you will feel 'normal' again, and others have said, there are many friends here who are happy to stand with you along that journey.
  • ToTheRightToTheRight
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    Benny wrote: »
    @ToTheRight there's no time limit on how long we grieve my friend. You take however long you need. Many of us have lost someone we care for, we all experience loss in a different way, it's never a good experience or one we look back on with happiness. However, moving forward we do find happiness again, we do smile, we do laugh, it does get better.
    You've taken a big step in moving forward, and there's no pace in which we need to do this to make things better. Only you can do that. But know that there is a time when you will feel 'normal' again, and others have said, there are many friends here who are happy to stand with you along that journey.

    Thanks, @Benny. I appreciate that.
  • Baltimore_007_Baltimore_007_
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    Wasn't sure whether to reply here but 10 years ago today my father passed on. Back then there were loads of support on the pages from names and participants that just seem no longer active or you can't locate. It's a pity but thing is even a decade on the hurt remains although to a lesser extent from the immediate time of impact. It's nowhere near as raw as back then but anniversaries such as this and a pivotal one at that, you can't always overlook these things.

    Take the opportunity to say, if you got parents still alive (then) visit or talk with them as much as able because one day you won't no longer get the chance. Living with regret is one of the hardest things you can do, time doesn't always heal it, the scars remain, so be advised, embrace your loved ones while you can - talk to them - because at times it's tough as hell wanting to (go back), say or do the right thing and knowing you can't do a damn thing with it.
  • DarthDimiDarthDimi Behind you!Moderator
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    Baltimore_007_ wrote: »
    Wasn't sure whether to reply here but 10 years ago today my father passed on. Back then there were loads of support on the pages from names and participants that just seem no longer active or you can't locate. It's a pity but thing is even a decade on the hurt remains although to a lesser extent from the immediate time of impact. It's nowhere near as raw as back then but anniversaries such as this and a pivotal one at that, you can't always overlook these things.

    Take the opportunity to say, if you got parents still alive (then) visit or talk with them as much as able because one day you won't no longer get the chance. Living with regret is one of the hardest things you can do, time doesn't always heal it, the scars remain, so be advised, embrace your loved ones while you can - talk to them - because at times it's tough as hell wanting to (go back), say or do the right thing and knowing you can't do a damn thing with it.

    That's a beautiful post, @Baltimore_007_ I am going to take your advice. I don't talk to my folks nearly as often as I should for all the things they have done for me, and still do, and for the chances they have given me in life.
  • echoecho 007 in New York
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    This thread has taken a very moving turn. I'm so sorry for your loss, @ToTheRight.

    I've had to go through the possessions of three close loved ones, and it's never easy. I do it at my own pace, and I try to remember that those who loved me would want me to remember them, sure, but also to live, and to thrive.
  • ToTheRightToTheRight
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    Baltimore_007_ wrote: »
    Wasn't sure whether to reply here but 10 years ago today my father passed on. Back then there were loads of support on the pages from names and participants that just seem no longer active or you can't locate. It's a pity but thing is even a decade on the hurt remains although to a lesser extent from the immediate time of impact. It's nowhere near as raw as back then but anniversaries such as this and a pivotal one at that, you can't always overlook these things.

    Take the opportunity to say, if you got parents still alive (then) visit or talk with them as much as able because one day you won't no longer get the chance. Living with regret is one of the hardest things you can do, time doesn't always heal it, the scars remain, so be advised, embrace your loved ones while you can - talk to them - because at times it's tough as hell wanting to (go back), say or do the right thing and knowing you can't do a damn thing with it.

    Couldn't agree more.
    I relocated across the country to be close to my parents 8 years ago. I got tired of missing the holidays with them. I talk to them everyday and visit as often as I can. I try and have either breakfast or dinner with them at least once a week, work schedule permitting.

    echo wrote: »
    This thread has taken a very moving turn. I'm so sorry for your loss, @ToTheRight.

    I've had to go through the possessions of three close loved ones, and it's never easy. I do it at my own pace, and I try to remember that those who loved me would want me to remember them, sure, but also to live, and to thrive.

    Thank you, @echo. It's very emotional going thru possessions. In some ways it's been kind of healing for me.
  • DwayneDwayne New York City
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    It’s been a tough couple of weeks for those of us that have followed the space program since the 1960s as the men (and women) that lead the way pass on. In just the past week, we lostKen Mattingly – who famously got bumped from Apollo 13 and later was part of the effort which enabled the crew to return safely. and today we lost Frank Borman – who commanded the first crewed mission to orbit the moon. They were 87 and 95 years old, respectively.

    https://www.cbsnews.com/news/frank-borman-dies-age-95-astronaut/

    https://www.cnn.com/2023/11/03/us/ken-mattingly-death-apollo-astronaut-scn/index.html

    Frank Borman
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    Ken Mattingly
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    I’ll post a longer remembrance in a few days over on our space exploration thread, but for now …..

    Ad astra Mr. Borman and Mr. Mattingly (and thank you).



  • Creasy47Creasy47 In Cuba with Natalya.Moderator
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    RIP to Roger Kastel, one of the greatest illustrators who delivered some of the all-time most iconic movie posters in history:

    https://deadline.com/2023/11/roger-kastel-dead-jaws-movie-poster-illustrator-1235613173/
  • LudovicoLudovico
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    RIP Karl Tremblay, singer of the group les Cowboys Fringants.
  • Creasy47Creasy47 In Cuba with Natalya.Moderator
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    George "Funky" Brown, drummer and songwriter for the legendary Kool & The Gang, has sadly passed away at the age of 74:

    https://deadline.com/2023/11/george-funky-brown-dead-kool-and-the-gang-drummer-1235616276/
  • TracyTracy
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    dir Robert Butler (Batman 60s pilot)
  • Fire_and_Ice_ReturnsFire_and_Ice_Returns I am trying to get away from this mountan!
    Posts: 23,530
    Creasy47 wrote: »
    George "Funky" Brown, drummer and songwriter for the legendary Kool & The Gang, has sadly passed away at the age of 74:

    https://deadline.com/2023/11/george-funky-brown-dead-kool-and-the-gang-drummer-1235616276/

    Pulp Fiction Soundtrack: Kool & The Gangs - Jungle Boogie

    R.I.P. George "Funky" Brown, Kool and The Gang were responsible for many great tracks.
  • VenutiusVenutius Yorkshire
    edited November 2023 Posts: 2,943
    George was frequently copied, but rarely acknowledged. RIP, George.
  • DwayneDwayne New York City
    Posts: 2,641
    Former First Lady Rosalynn Carter has died. While she, as well as her husband, former President Jimmy Carter, have been in poor health for some time, this still makes me profoundly sad.
    https://www.huffpost.com/entry/first-lady-rosalynn-carter-dies_n_6481303ae4b027d92f8a7267

    RIP Rosalynn Carter, you lived your life with a dignity that we all aspire to.
  • LucknFateLucknFate 007 In New York
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    Dwayne wrote: »
    Former First Lady Rosalynn Carter has died. While she, as well as her husband, former President Jimmy Carter, have been in poor health for some time, this still makes me profoundly sad.
    https://www.huffpost.com/entry/first-lady-rosalynn-carter-dies_n_6481303ae4b027d92f8a7267

    RIP Rosalynn Carter, you lived your life with a dignity that we all aspire to.

    It's a shame that today's corporate media strategy of video-priority means there isn't a clear, up-to-date image of the late Mrs. Carter anywhere in the article at all, only a video of the former President at the top, and a photo of her younger at the bottom. Shameful way to remember her on HuffPo's part.
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